As a military family member, you might hear about building and fostering resilience fairly often. Military family resilience is a big concept with many moving pieces. To help break it down—and optimize your family in the process—take a look at these key components of the most resilient families. And check out the top 11 traits of optimized families, too.
Published on: April 10, 2019
Is Your Family Optimized?
It takes a lot of character and grit to be a military family. But as many families know, true resilience comes from supporting each other and navigating challenges together. Optimized families who face adversity head-on tend to come through the tough stuff feeling stronger, braver, and more resourceful.
Be in it together
- Think about what matters most to your family.
- Strive to learn something positive about each other after a challenging time.
- Accept the present for what it is and trust your ability to adapt over time.
- What does your family stand for?
- Which values are important to you?
- What does the future look like for your family?
Build your bonds.
- Practice flexibility to rebound when things don’t go as planned.
- Apologize, forgive, and show accountability to help mend things and move on.
- Enjoy and appreciate fun times together.
- What are your family’s routines and traditions?
- Do you say what you mean and mean what you say?
- How do you spend quality time together?
Share, listen, and learn
- Share emotions openly and respectfully.
- Prioritize empathy and honesty.
- Talk about problems before they become unmanageable.
- How do you resolve conflict?
- What can you learn from your failures as a family?
- How do you validate each other’s feelings?
Human Performance Resource Center. Consortium for Health and Military Performance.
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